I Know how much you all love the competitions so here is another one for you all. Answers to be submitted by E-mail only please to:
So ok here we go, for your chance to win a free session of hypnotherapy plus runner up prizes of books and chill out recordings:

What does NLP stand for, is it?

A. No late payments
B. Neuro Linguistic Programming
C. Non Language Pattern

I will decide the winner on Sunday. Good luck and dont forget E-mail entries only please.

Quit Smoking Now!

The new book by Daniel McDermit, Quit smoking its a doddle is now available for sale. This book is written by a fellow hypnotherapist and uses a cognitive approach to help you quit smoking. I am offering the book for free for as a back up with all my quit smoking sessions. My session use powerful hypnotic techniques to help you quit the habit for good. Costing just £110 for a two hour session plus a follow up plus a text or telephone support service. Contact me now to book and reclaim back the life you deserve. You will also receive Danny’s amazing book. 07528 326201

Smoking & Mindset

How many smokers try to justify the reason for their smoking habit? If you are a smoker how many of the following statements can you relate to.

1. I smoke because I’m stressed

2. You got to die of something

3. Smoking helps me relax

4. smoking keeps my weight down

5. I been smoking for years its too late to give up now

By having this particular mindset, you are conning yourself. smoking is an addiction and as such the above, are symptoms of the addiction. Hypnotherapy is all about making those positive life changing decisions. As long as you have the desire to quit then therapy will just reinforce that desire. There are some amazing and very powerful techniques in the world of hypnotherapy. Remember, what the mind can conceive, you can achieve.

Dealing with anger

The majority of advice you get on managing anger is rarely helpful. It can make a situation worse and can even cause you to feel misunderstood and upset.
Widespread, unhelpful beliefs about managing anger
Here are some examples of advice that don’t quite hit the mark:

1. “You don’t want to change, you enjoy being in pain.”

This is typically said when the person doesn’t feel like they can help. They shift the blame. But no one likes to be in pain – deep down they know that. People tend to use pain and suffering to achieve things that they can’t in a different, healthier way. They may get a kick out of antagonising someone, but they do not enjoy suffering of any kind.

2. “What is the use of getting angry? It doesn’t do any good.”

This is like asking “What is the point of getting a cold?” It’s the wrong question to ask. You won’t be able to find the right answers until you ask the right questions. People get angry whether it helps or hinders them. A better thing to ask them is, “Is there a way that you could manage your anger properly without causing yourself more pain?”

3. “Nobody can make you angry unless you let them.”

This is another example of shifting the blame. Not only is the person who is receiving this remark already angry, they have now been accused of being the root of the problem. Adults are not made of stone – they have feelings. Not matter how others behave, you can still respect yourself. With this in mind, you can reduce your emotional hurt and even feel more successful.

4. “Be nice or nobody will like you.”

The message here is to focus on being nice above every other emotion. Ideally, you would like to be nice to everybody, all of the time. But in reality, that’s not really possible. This statement encourages anger to be internalised, which may explode at any time in normal conversation. You may need to express anger when you feel threatened. This type of advice can be seen as counter-productive.

If you would like some help managing your anger, hypnotherapy can help. Contact me today for a friendly chat or to book an appointment

Why we dwell on negativity and how to stop

As humans, we seem to remember negative experiences more clearly than those that make you happy. Interestingly, Stanford University professor Clifford Nass says this is because negative or stressful events are processed differently by the brain. This leads us to remember them in more detail.

Professor Teresa M. Amabile from the Harvard Business School looked into this idea and asked over 200 professionals working on various projects at different companies to keep a daily journal for several months.

The entries were analysed by Professor Amabile who found that a single setback (especially those that affected the day’s progress) affected people twice as much as something positive that happened during the day.

So, why is this? According to Professor Roy Baumeister, a social psychologist from Florida State University, humans are hardwired to dwell on negative experiences. This is because they are platforms for learning. Learning what not to do is a key element in our survival.

We now know why we dwell on the negatives, but often we don’t need to dwell to learn – so how can we avoid it?

Distract yourself

If you find yourself ruminating on something negative, try throwing yourself into a hobby or activity. This is a great way to re-place your focus on something more productive. You could also get together with friends or family and focus on catching up with them. This takes the focus off of you.

Gain some perspective

Many of us blow things out of proportion, especially in response to criticism or something negative. Try to be objective and look at the big picture. Will you be thinking about this in five years?

Be kind to yourself

We can often be self-critical, beating ourselves up for something others would consider insignificant. Try to think of yourself as a friend – would you speak to your friend the way you speak to yourself? Be gentle with yourself and believe in your ability to succeed again.

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